My mum and dad who was a drug addict , got divorced when I was two. He then died of throat cancer when I was seven .Right after my parents got divorced , my mum got a new boyfriend , with whom we lived for another seven years . Although he was quite nice to me and never abused me , I don't think he ever loved me . He broke up with my mum on her birthday when I was 9 , and sold the house we were living in behind our backs so me and my mum were practically homeless. ( Did I mentioned that this house was hounted ? It was normal for me to hear someone walking up and down the stairs when I was the only person home , sitting in the livingroom ) Also , my mum whom I love dearly , and has done a lot for me , has also trouble managing her anger , and throughout my life has called me many extremely nasty things , that I will never forget.
So yea . We had to move out of the ''hounted house'' because it wasn't ours anymore. My mum who owned a successfull beauty salon at that time , decided to sell everything and move ( or should i say emigrate ? ) to the UK . ( I'm polish ... sucks doesn't it ?)
So I ended up living with my grandparents ( from my mum's side ) for a whole year . Although I love them , because they are the best grandparants in the world , I couldn't help missing my mum . So after a year , when she finally settled down here in the UK , she bought me a plane ticket so I could start a new life here , and that's when the nightmare started . First , I had to leave everybody behind , all my friends and family , and although I was always quite chatty I found it hard to make friends here because I couldn't speak english at that time .
Children at my new school were being racist towards me , they used to throw cans and bottles at me and call me names . This just made it harder for me to settle down , my mum had a new boyfriend at that time that I used to argue with him quite a lot. He would also abuse me mentally , and make me feel really worthless . I was only 10-11 at that time , and started developing suicidal thoughts.I had no friends , no one to talk to, and because I was away from my mum for a whole year I used to go up to her and hug her every half an hour because I was so happy to be with her once again. At first she liked it an hugged me back , but after few weeks she found it really annoying and used to shout at me for it . She even shouted at me for crying. It was a really tough time for me. I had no support , when I needed it the most . I remember feeling so hopeless I would walk around in circles in my room crying my eyes out and pulling my hair , because I didn't know what to do with myself anymore . I even scratched my face once , because I just felt so weak and helpless . My mum shouted at me when she saw and called me names , she never even asked why i did it .
I am now 15 , nearly sixteen , so It has been around 4-5 years since that happened . In the meantime I have also :
- Developed an eating disorder ( bulimia )- my mum found out but once again never got me any help , just told me to stop.
- Started cutting myself
- developed binge eating which caused me to gain weight which then caused me to be seriously depressed.
- Had thousands of arguments with my mum . The worst one was when she threw me a knife and told me to cut myslef .
- Developed even more suicidal thoughts , and have held a knife under my throat many times , but never had the courage to actually kill myself.
Its weird , now that I have written all fo this down it doesnt seem so bad. That's beacuse I havent shared everything , It would take me hours to include all the bad things that have happened to me. All the boyfriends that my mum has had , how her current boyfriend makes fun of my weight , how my ''best friend'' from Poland has completely left me and doesnt give a shit about me anymore . How I feel so ugly and fat . How the only social life I have here I going to town with my three friends , where two of them are obsessed with video games like pokemon, and the other one is selfish and spoiled and always talks about herself. How I sit by myslef in nearly all classes , and just feel like I am completely failing in life .
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I think Polish people rock! They are renowned for their amazing pottery and ceramics. My grandmother was adopted by a wonderful Polish family and I kick myself for not asking more about them... I remember big family dinners- the food was always amazing. So, about your circumstances now- highschool is only temporary. There is life after highschool, and you will find that all the trials and tribulations that you are suffering from now: popularity, competitiveness, insecurity, will vanish. If you can, try to understand that people change as they age, and when you move into your next "stage" in life, all of the trauma and drama that you are currently dealing with, will only make you stronger and more independent. In "real-life" adults don't care about Pokemon, they are too busy struggling to make mortgage payments and putting food on the table. Enjoy your youth while you can. You're wiser and ahead of the curve when it comes to your friends, and they too will outgrow their self-centeredness(hopefully). Be strong my Polish friend!
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