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Posted by waldorf3899 at June 26, 2011
Tags: Attitude  2011 June  Relationship

This is my first time writing about my troubles, so excuse me if this sounds like im rambling. I have a lot on my mind. Brief background, im in my late 20s and i still consider a shy person which sucks. My main struggle is getting over an ex girlfriend. We dated for almost 5yrs. And unfortunately she moved to another city, ultimately i couldn't handle the long distance relationship style, which caused the breakup. I constantly blame myself for not making it work. This was my first serious relationship and i was 23 when it started (i know its sad). Since we broke up, I have yet to date another female. I recently found out from a mutual friend that my ex is engaged to be married. After we broke up she quickly dated another guy from her job (who she is going to marry). Although I wish she was as miserable as I was at time, I tried to stay positive about the whole situation. My main thought process that if she is happy , that is what matters. She was my first true love. Most people my age have gone thru plenty of relationships. And have no problem jumping into next one. Me on the other hand, It took me 23yrs to find a girlfriend. And since we broke up I have i not found another girl. Some where in my development i never learned how to talk and converse with females. Now that im at that age where most of my friends are settling down to start families, I on the other hand am extremely lonely and staring to believe I will never find another girl. This among other things, have lead me to believe that i would be better of dead. Not so much killing my self but dying. Therefore I can myself and my parents the embarrassment of a son who cannot talk to girls and will probably live the rest of his life alone.


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By anonymous at 29,Jul,11 05:19

A lot of guys are in your situation.

It's hard to relate to women because they lie constantly.

They are so self-absorbed, it's hard to make sense of what they are saying.

I was involved with a girl for almost 5 yrs myself. It was a wash. It sucked royally.

Love is a scam. We're being bombarded with images of happy couples and families in commercials all over the media.
They sell to us all. Love is a lie. it's a product.

I'm 35 now, no end in sight. Will be alone for ever. Women are cold, indifferent, hypocrites, ignorant, sexist, racist, but they love their pets sooooo much!

When are they gonna decriminalize prostitution. It would probably throw a wrench in the transmission of a few girls.
God forbids they should grow up and act real for once.
I'd rather pay for a "service" than getting involved with any western girls out there. Fuck their bullshit.


By anonymous at 30,Jul,11 11:05

It didn't take you 23yrs to find a girlfriend, and it won't take you that long again. It will take a while, it will take a lot of effort and it will take a lot of hurt. But it will happen. I believe this for you because I believe it for myself. Nothing good in life ever comes easy.

I don't know why I feel like I'm in a position to give advice (if I didn't have my own troubles, I wouldn't have found this site). My long-term girlfriend broke up with me saying that she "didn't feel capable of being in a relationship anymore". I still don't understand that. It's been months now and I can't even imagine finding another girl.

But life goes on.

I am shy too, but I try to overcome that by forcing myself into situations where I have to talk to more people. If you don't give yourself a choice, you can't isolate yourself or over-think situations - you just have to meet people. Often it doesn't end well, often it makes things worse, but sometimes it has led to good things. Just talk to girls the same way you talk to anyone else.

The whole "better off dying" thing is bullshit. Don't let that be you. Fuck what your parents think. Fuck what your friends think. Just care about your perspective on your life. I'm sure you want to change, so start with that. A hope in yourself. A hope for your life. I know (believe me) that hope makes us more vulnerable but it's worth the risk.

All too often the only thing capable of stopping us is ourselves.

Good luck.


By anonymous at 04,Aug,11 04:22

u want a whah burger to go with your french cries? what a baby


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