I'm 53, divorced now for 5 years after being married to the woman I loved for 27 years. I am having trouble dating now because of trust issues and finding a good woman because I have gained weight and often get rejected. I find I have to settle for women that aren't right for me just so I can go out on a date. I am also dealing with insulin dependent diabetes. I come home from work so tired but yet can't sleep at night.
As a kid I was physically and emotionally abused by my parents, boys in school tried to beat me up everyday so I had to run home and hope they wouldn't catch me.
I don't have many friends, I live alone, I feel isolated, I feel unwanted. This has led to feelings of depression and sadness.
Now that my kids are married, they have their own lives. My daughter is too busy for her father.
I have always been a good man and have tried to help others when I could. My ex has remarried and her life has moved on and she is happy. I still miss her. I know I should be angry that she cheated on me. I just want her to be happy. I only wish her the best. She left me because my diabetes has caused me to be impotent and unable to get an erection or have sex.
I have no joy in my life, no purpose, no direction. I still live in the same house that my ex and I shared when we were married. I know I should sell the house and move. The divorce has also caused financial problems and I am nearing backruptcy because of my debt. I also know that if I sell my house I'll never be able to buy another house because of my poor credit history.
Mostly I'm sad because I'm alone, without my life partner and best friend.
I am nearing the end of my hope...I'm growing tired and don't know how much fight to survive I have left. I need some love and hope in my life or I will be unable to go on much longer.
I hang on because of my kids. They are the best part of my life.
I know people have it much worse than me...I was just wishing life would be a little happier for me as I get older.
Maybe someone will read this and understand my pain and perhaps will offer me some hope. | |
I believe you that you are going about your life the wrong way by trying to fill a hole left by your wife by replacing it with other women. Having a partner should not be your only goal in life.
Set yourself some new goals in the distance future to strive to. I would suggest selling your house, moving to a smaller apartment and renting. Then use the rest of the money to perhaps get into a routine of going to the gym. You'll start to feel a lot better about yourself as you get healthier. Then when the time is right you can travel somewhere in great shape and have confidence in talking to women again!
Do not live in the past, no matter how hard it is my friend. Keep pushing yourself forward to bigger and better things.
Involve yourself in activities and things that make you happy. Get in shape and lose weight for yourself. Then once you feel better about yourself and have more confidence and a good life as a single person, women will be more attracted to you. Have you tried viagra or treatments for ED, because sex is an important aspect of romantic relationships so you may want to work on that. Otherwise, get really, really great at giving oral sex. People have needs and women you meet who are in their 50's or younger probably will still be very interested in sexual release.
The final piece is getting your financial house in order as best you can. Bottom line is once you become a balanced, well rounded guy and have your life in good shape, others will be attracted to you. But you need to work on yourself before you pursue women. There is hope. In any case, best of luck to you.
Women are self-serving egoists. They care only about their own needs, wants and desires. Life is a long, useless struggle. Love is absolutely dead.
Look at the news all over the planet. It's a reflection of our core values. MONEY, SEX, MURDER!
Women are as ruthless, cruel and money hungry as your typical corporate CEO.
At 35, I'm looking forward to a life of loneliness, despair
for another 30-40 years. FUCK!
I enjoyed a great relationship with her. But she's gone now and was told to get over it. Time heals all wounds!
fuck that!
I happen to hear women speaking ill of men all the time. So I indulged myself, I apologize. BAD EXPERIENCES, ya know!
I enjoyed your post thoroughly! THANX!
FUCK MAKING SOMETHING FOR OTHERS TO ENJOY.
What am I writing here, the fuckin' care bears. Women are sociopaths, plain and simple.
Guys can't vent anymore without being crucified by self-entitled ladies.
figures!
Only heartless women are allowed to pick on people's grief to motivate their man-hating characters."So what if your mom died."
It takes one shitty woman to talk about another. Thanx for proving my point.
LOOK BABYBOOMERS, YOU ARE DISGUSTING PERVERTS.
FOCUSED ON YOUR GENITALS, LIKE YOU WERE IN THE 60'S.
SELF-SERVING GENERATION.
WE SHOULD CALL YOUR GENERATION "BABYKILLERS".
YOUR LIFESTYLE IS SO IMPORTANT TO YOU.
plenty of guys like you coming every year.
and most arevery happy, some even got married.
go to your travel agency...life is cheap in asia.
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