Think I'm an old one on here. I turned 40 this year. I cried the whole day because my life isn't what I want it to be. I have a great paying job. I can buy anything I want - except friends.
I haven't made close friends since college. My best friends live far away, so I don't have anyone to hang out with afterwork or on the weekends. Love my family, but sometimes you just want friends to hang with and be silly with.
It's Friday, and I'm home on my computer sad that I have no one to spend this weekend with. I hate my job, so I don't want Monday to come.
I am ready for a change, but don't know how to do it. Can't quit my job and foreclose on my house, but I can't take being sad and lonely like this forever.
How in the world do people make friends when they are no longer in school? I don't get it. I think I'm pretty great, but it seems I'm the only one who knows it, besides my family.
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Hobbies. And I am dead serious. It may sound superficial or childish, but it isn't. I can guarantee you, from my personal experience, that hobbies are the way to go.
I have a couple of hobbies, some of which have become the things that make me get out of bed every morning. I pursue them not because I want to meet new people, but because of the sheer pleasure those activities provide, however I do meet LOTS of people. Most of those people are like minded, and have great personalities. We get along very well. Hobby is such an inappropriate word for this anyway, because when you find one that is right for you, it becomes more like one of the purposes of your life.
Find a hobby. You are a male, so you probable would enjoy some of the more athletic activities, and you have enough money to get some really great hobbies, so there are tons of wonderful opportunities available for you. I wish I was in your position, because I have some things that I am very passionate about, but I can't afford them right now. Consider yourself lucky in this regard. Here are some suggestion to get you thinking about it: Tennis, photography, art, car racing, vintage vehicle restoration, cycling, motorcycling, parachuting, paragliding, playing a musical instrument, off-roading, skiing, diving, woodworking, metalworking, sculpting, competing in pet shows, writing, lifting weights, martial arts, running etc. There are so many options available I get excited just thinking about it. Doesn't matter if you are/want to be athletic, or prefer intellectual or creative activities, nor does it matter if you have any previous skill in anything, or want to start from scratch, there is something that fits every type of person.
Once you start doing something, you will, of course, enjoy the activity in itself, but once you join your local community of people doing the same things (for example through a web forum, or going to seminars/meetings/shows) you will not believe just how many great people (who also like the same things you do no less) you will start meeting. Of course, meeting people is just the first stage, after that you have to spend time with them to become friends, but if you have things that are a common interest between you two, that shouldn't be a problem.
And that's it, it's really that simple. Good luck!
Find your friends online via website like gumtree and craigslist and locanto. These websites have localised everywhere in the world, post your friend seeking ad on them.
Its amazing how many fucking whiners there are out there. Your family is all that matters now you idiot, not your friends or other stupid stuff like that. Your 40 yrs old, not 20 and still in college. Weekend isnt party time anymore you moron, its time to spend with family. If they arent that important to you then you dont deserve them.
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