Why does it seem that there is one rule for everyone else and one for me? | Posted by Allie at March 14, 2010 | Tags: Anger 2010 March |
I am absolutely sick of my friends and family making me feel like some kind of freak when I eventually voice the fact that I have had enough of their inconsideration. I am not an angry person, in fact most people tell me I have too much patience and often comment that they would burst long before I do. So why is it that when I do get angry - and were not talking shouting and screaming (although right now I do feel that way) - just literally saying 'I'm fed up with being treated this way and I am not letting it happen any longer', my friends and family react by saying things like 'oooookay' or 'wotever u say' or 'you feel better now?' or 'if you say so' or 'fine, all while pulling a face like I am acting like a crazy lady. They make me feel like I am acting irresponsibly by setting a limit or voicing my dissapointment and it hurts like hell. Especially as these people are the same ones who think nothing of voicing their opinions left right and center, dont care who they offend and say things like 'well if they dont like it...'
Right now I am so hurt and angry at constantly being made to feel like a bad person for standing up for myself (after a lot of provocation). Im not sure how to handle what Im feeling or their reactions.
I just dont understand why I am getting this reaction and am left feeling guilty and confused. | |
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Communicate the reason and your feelings. Do not allow it to fester. That causes you to repress and repression is bad, really bad. Be assertive but not aggressive.
Then watch a good comedy like "Fawlty Towers" or "Yes Minister" to have a good laugh. Personally I like "Are You Being Served" after a good tiff. Captain Peacock is the perfect character to point your venom to.
Love, the Psych. Doc.
Maybe your friends and family are confused by you? maybe they are expecting you to blow up sometimes...instead of just saying "I'm fed up with this..I won't let it happen again"..Let it out! Be like, "This is Bullshit!!" Yell and scream sometimes. It'll be better for you to vent right then and there, as opposed to bottling it up until you have a nervous breakdown. I don't know your entire situation, but that's what I see...
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