I've been married for 19 years. I love my wife but I hate living with her. She wakes up crabby and goes to bed the same way. We have five kids and she is constantly yelling in the house at either them or me. She has a quick temper and feels like she needs to take charge. She is basically a bully. She may ask a question but there is only one answer, yes honey or you will be belittled or hammered on till you are angry or feel like a moron. I wish it would change but I think it ever will. Right now, I wish I were single. However, once in a while she has a nice streak where I remember that I do love her. I think most people would consider me successful at work and as a father and husband. She finds a reason to complain about everything. | |
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If your wife makes your life miserable most of the time, it means you're unhappy most of the time and there's no way this will end up well if she doesn't change.
The only way she'll change is if you let her know if she doesn't stop throwing tantrums and being so disrespectful to you, she might lose you.
She's your wife, your partner in life, not your boss. A couple is a life for two, neither of you should be "the boss", it's a partnership.
Trust me, if you're unhappy (and she clearly is too, no one that cranky can be happy), the children will pick it up. Kids are much smarter than adults give them credit for, they know you guys are unhappy and that will affect how they feel, too.
Go to counseling, dialogue, I know it's all easier said then done, but if you want to save that marriage and make things better, you two gotta cooperate and look for help.
If all fails, it's not a crime to get a divorce.
It's better to be alone, than together and miserable. Just don't forget the kids, and for fuck's sake, stop reproducing, whether you like to hear it or not, putting more children in this world will DEFINITELY make things worse, don't be irresponsible.
Good luck!
but tell her exactly how you feel - and not only say it say how much bad it makes you feel and take charge a little
Take a video of her while she is yelling at the kids or record/video her while she is putting you down. Then, show her the video/recording.
She needs to see what she is doing. This might help.
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