Hi, everybody.
I feel like i am stuck in a rat. I've been married for 6 years and only ;ast week found out that after a silly argument my husband has cheated on me. The thing is that the guy is so weird that i don't know what to do. I've asked him to move out, but he is insisting on staying, and today i've found out that he still communicates with his lover, he is saying that they are not seeing each other that the woman calls him now and again. What kind of stupid thing is that if u want to go and do whatever u like- GO!!! Why is he wasting my life and his own too??? We don't have any kinds, mortgage or any other commitments that would keep us together.
People say that communication is the key to happy relationship - it is very stupid and useless statement, coz it is not true. I've been communicating with my husband for 6 years and look where it got me! I am trully wonderful wife; easy-going, understanding, forgiving always make sure that his food, laundries and everything else is done in the house. Why do man not appreciating good wifes? He himself said that if we would brake up, nobody will take care of him as well as I did! So if u know that, why don't u appreciate and value such person in ur life???
The other point in this situation is that he is not allowing people in the house, when he is at home. He just genuinely doesn't like people in the house. So the argument that that lead to cheating happend because my female-friend came over and we talked OUTSIDE in the parking lot for 15 minutes, apparently he doesn't like that too!!!!! Amazing!!! I am prisoner in myown house and myown relationship. Who does he think he is??? GOD? I really don't know. What puzzels me the most is why doesn't he want to leave??? Men are funny creatures. I was even thinking of suicide to ease the pain, but understand that it is useless reason to die for.
I really hate my life and this situation!!! God help me and keep me sain, if YOU exist!!! | |
does this mean you should die in order to teach him a lesson?.......ABSOLUTELY NOT.....YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR THIS PERSON.....and there are men out there who would endlessly cherish and appreciate a woman like you......i certainly am one of those men.....i guess my ex-wife could be considered the opposite of how you are, she was never very easy going, understanding, forgiving, caring, or supportive......but she was very mean, very cold and extremely selfish.......she did not understand that she and i were an actual family, even though we didn't get to have any children together.
so you must decide where your life goes from here.......if you love him and you believe her loves you, maybe you can save your marriage with help.....most churches will provide marriage counseling to people who express interest in seeking help.....if you believe that this is NOT what love was meant to be, you can leave......ONLY if you decide to not be married to him anymore, i would stop talking to him.....i would pull away emotionally, and the only thing he would get from me would be SILENCE.....i would not even make eye contact, for he has shown that he does not deserve ANY MORE of you in his life......if you decide to leave him, let him realize the full reward of what his life will be like to NOT have you there by his side, both emotionally and pysically......good luck to you :)
WHAT ADVICE HAVE YOU OFFERED TO HELP HER WITH HER PROBLEM, HOW FUCKING STUPID ARE YOU?
ok, i'll get "real"....i have no more use for you, say what you want, but you fail to treat others who are down on their luck as you would want to be treated if you were in the same boat.....obviously, you love and honor yourself WAY MORE than anyone in their right mind who should be giving advice to people in pain.....BUT YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT ONE THING, if there is even ONE misspelled word in any future post you read, PLEASE refuse them your "amazing" advice.
you have given many people heartfelt advice, JUST LIKE THIS POSTER as we clearly can all tell, because stupid people do stupid things, right?......great job......but a simple word of advice for you in the future.....you can flip your script in real life, and lie about things you said to people's faces 10 minutes ago, switch it all around, and even sometimes get away with it......BUT on the computer, it's all written, what you said above can't be changed, anyone can go back and see that YOU ARE CLEARLY A GRAMMAR NAZI, so when you flop like this, it makes you look......well, how can i put this......LIKE A FUCKING JERK.....have a great day, pussy
please understand that when you post comments to people's problems on this site, you're dealing with real life people who are hurting and searching for healing......they are asking for guidance, not your version of revenge through what someone dumb fuck done to you.....if you're too fucking stupid to comprehend this, maybe you should just go play online checkers or something.....or as this previous commenter probably does, maybe you should just go watch videos of a bunch of sweaty short haired bull-dyke lesbos jumping into a pile.
I hope this lady's situation has worked out in the best of her interests.
right, so you're saying a little jealousy is what is needed to make everything better......you hopeless fucking idiot
I hope things are working out better for you since you posted be your message before. If they are not and you are still in a marriage that makes you want to divorce or kill yourself, but stick with a husband who wont leave, I would suggest you go out to a coffee shop or a library or somewhere along where you can think and decide what it is you really want. Do you want to end the relationship or do you want to see if you can fix it? If you want to end it - see a lawyer. Don't tell him you are going, just make an appointment. When you talk to the lawyer just get advice - understand your options, your rights, and his rights. You need to know these things so that you can make a good plan for getting yourself away from a negative situation and start building your life in a new direction. Marriages are legal contracts and breaking them is not something to be done lightly or in ignorance.
If you decide you want to stay with him, then I might suggest trying to see a couples therapist or speaking with a priest or minister. If money is an issue, your local Planned Parenthood maybe able to help you or you can try your local university, there psychology department may have a low cost clinic at it were they train students at. If he is unwilling to try to fix the relationship, I might revisit the divorce option. You can't control other people, but you can love and respect yourself.
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