LIFE SUCKS

Sick of playing nice, when do I get what I want??

I hate my ex!!!! We have a 9 year old daughter, which I had when I was 16 he was 20 ( he did t want her, left me alone and scared and told me to get and an abortion...) we dated on and off after she was born because I had this sick delusion we could be a family. He beat me, was both physically abusive and emotionally abusive. He dealt drugs and did them on a regular basis would go out and cheat on me come home drunk and bully me so I left.
I'm now with a great guy and we have a two year old together and have a real and happy family. With the exception of my ex trying to interfere in our lives. Ecause of his unhappiness!! Recently I stopped letting my daughter go to her fathers because of his erratic behavior, he wasn't bringing her back and threatened to take off with her to force me to do what he wants. Drive hours to drop her off and pick her up because he had to move out of the city to hide from the cops. I was afraid for her safety so we went to court....

He filed for parenting rights and gaurdianship and I hired a lawyer, who said she was getting the court date adjourned to a later date because he served me 4 days in advance, she told me not to go to court because she would handle it.... SHE DIDN'T SHOW UP!!! So he got awarded all kinds of rights in my absence and I'm court ordered to give my daughter to him. We have been in and out of court the past few months because i want his access time changed, hes supposed to get her for an entire month in the summer which is extremely excesive And I'm trying to get court ordered child support because he has never paid a dime!
Now when she goes there he asks her if she would rather live with him and drags her into our problems. Now he's on my case because I made her do some laundry and clean the bathroom recently. He's saying I'm making her miserable because she has to do chores and I'm endangering her safety by making her clean and that he's goin to go to child services and try to take her away from me. I'm a good mother and I've raised her by myself for 9 years e doesn't even pay child support!!! I'm do stressed out about all this and it's driving me nuts that he just won't leave us alone he's been trying to ruin my life since I was 14 and just wish he would go jump off a cliff!!!!