I am a professional man. I am married to another man, but the state doesn't recognize our marriage. For fourteen years I would have argued with anyone who claimed he would mess around with anther guy. Then I found emails where he was talking with other guys about hooking up for sex. He says he didn't do it, but I don't know what to think. He keeps secrets from me and is very reserved about what he does when I am not around.
I took a new job so I wouldn't travel as much so I could be with him. He took a new job that lets him not work when I am working and works when I am not working. He has a lot of free time, but doesn't tell me much about what he is doing. I don't know if he is fucking around. If he is I can't stop him. It's so available.
My new job has me working 10 hour days five days a week and several hours on Saturday and Sunday. (no extra pay) from problems that started because of the person in the position before me.
I have two kids, both adults, who seem to mostly contact me when they want something and they come by at Christmas to get gfts. They live in another state.
I don't want to live without my husband, but I don't want to live the way things are either. When I try to talk about things he gets mad. I dont know how to do anything else.
Life sucks, but not in a good way. I don't know how much longer it can go as it is. Too many things are fucked up at the same time.
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I say you should explore the time that you two started having problems. I am sure things were very nice once. It might be that he is holding a grudge about something that happened a long time ago. When you hold a grudge and do nothing about it for a long time, it festers like a wound that hasn't been properly treated. (Sorry for the poor metaphor)Then if you are lucky and you discover what is causing your husband to act the way he is, apologize and treat him to a nice dinner or something equal to the problem. But if it is the other much nastier possiblity and the relationship has run its course, I suggest you give him his freedom and separate peacefully. But if you think there is still hope, take some time off and go to the places that are special to you. Where you met, where you made love for the first time or just anything that you think might help you. Show him how much you love him. How unconditionally you care for him. And your two children, dump their asses! They are adults. Of course blood is blood. So make a list of the thingss you are willing to help them with. Like if they are terminally sick or their house burned down. Other than that forget them. You raised them. They should be helping and taking care of you right now not the other way around. Good luck. Hope your marriage lasts.
talking is the key,tell him how you feel about him hiding stuff
to the assholes here:god is dead,he died of aids while fucking jebus ,now go beat your wives and fuck your children.
piss off
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