LIFE SUCKS

No boyfriend or friends

Can't get a boyfriend or friends if my life depended on it. I've never really had a boyfriend per say. Dated 2 guys whom I thought it would turn into a relationship but didn't First guy had an ex-husband who would not leave him alone and kept crying on his shoulder about his problems. He refuses to not have any contact with him,citing all the history he had with him and that I would not understand since I've never been married. I think I'm intelligent enough to tell between right and wrong and when someone is not emotionally available. It lasted only 2 months. The second guy had commitment issues,we dated for 4 months and still did not consider me his boyfriend. He was too busy all the time with his work and studies. When we made plans together 1st he would break them because one of his University buddies always needed him. He used me to help him with household chores when we would get together and cut are dates very short.
I'm a very very picky,choosey and selective type of guy when it comes to trying to find gay men to befriend. I don't want anything that is long-distance. I get so many replies/friend requests on the sites that I have profiles/personal ads on from gay guys all over the world,but I'm not interested,because they are not located in the same city that I live in. I can't go out for coffee,dinner,movies,working out at the gym,ect. with someone who is not physically here in the same city. I don't have the patience to have an email/penpal/skype only type of friendship.
I'm not a bar/club/drag scene type of gay men either. I hate it,can't stand it. I don't drink,don't smoke,NOT looking for any type of hook-up,causal sex or anything of that sort. It's hard to find the ones who aren't into the bar scene like me. I like masculine gay men,not overly effeminate types,that does not attract me.
I've tried the volunteer route in getting involved with the gay community in the past and it has NEVER worked for me.I don't seem to click or connect with any of the people that I've worked with. I don't mind the actual physical work of doing whatever it is that I have to do,just not the people that I've worked with.
I'm picky about age too,I don't want someone who is too young and immature,nor do I want some old grandpa type either. 25 to 45 is the age range I'm seeking.
I have personal ads/profiles on Facebook,Craigslist.org,GayCanada,Gay.com,Gays.com,Manhunt.net,POF,Are You Interested.com,Zoosk.com and many,many more. Do you think I could get a potential boyfriend with all these sites that I'm at to save my life?????
I've been seeing a family counsellor now for roughly about 7 years now for this problem. I try to keep myself busy with the activties I enjoy to get myself away from the computer,but it is always in the back of my mind,that yearning and needing to have a gay friend or 2 and a boyfriend. I'm pretty much a loner and it sucks to be alone. Luckily I do have my immediate family to be around so I'm not completely alone.