My boyfriend and i have been together for 19 mnths i have a son from a preveous relationship, my son does not see his biological father and my boyfriend has taken on the roll fantastically. But he has gone to Australia for a month which his dad paid for (he lives out there) and am not happy with it, for one i would have never have left him for a month to see my family also if i were the parent wanting my child to vist would have paid for all my sons new family to come over or a wouldnt have offered if i could afford it.
Now he is there i seem to have been totally forgotten am at home doing the same day in day out, am having stess at work as well as college, trying to bring up my 3yr old and looking after the new puppy we got before he left. all i wanted was a message when he got up in a morning to show he was thinking of us. i know its difficult to keep in touch because of the time difference but if we talk we talk over facebook and skype and it wont wake me if he leaves a message. i dont think am asking alot really, but we have been arguing about it all day. then i mentioned that i will probably never get to go and see the amazing things he has beacause of the price of going and he went mental saying that i was saying he couldnt see his dad again after this trip. he told me he WILL go again if i go or not so i feel really neglected now. its not my fault his dad chose to move out there we are not a rich family and really cant afford to go, if i could i would. he is now in the process of thinking if we gona still be together after all the "hassle" i have given him over this. am i wrong for feeling bitter about the whole thing? | |
It sounds like you're trying to suck the life out of your boyfriend. If it were me, I'd be gone!
Just reading you story confirms why experienced men tend to avoid women.
u sound needy to a point where its like entitlement..
relationships sometimes require patience, think of it like a test..
if you fail the test then he might MOVE to australia.. if you pass then he might marry you
He was probably thinking of you while he was balls deep in some 20 year old....
Instead, be grateful that this guy has taken on the responsibility of your child and acts so well with him. The responsibility of being a parent is yours alone, you chose it, so accept it and the fact that having a child means sacrificing luxuries for yourself.
You need to suck it up and apologise to your boyfriend, grovel in fact. That you now realise it was incredibly selfish of you, and the stress of everyday life was just wearing you down and you're sorry for taking it out on him, despite the fact he's done nothing wrong. Tell him that you appreciate him, you know it is difficult to take on a relationship when someone else's child is involved. And suggest you maybe start saving for a holiday together for sometime in the future
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