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The loneliness gets worse as I get older

Posted by Darren Marden at April 15, 2012
Tags: 2012 April  Loneliness

I am 29 and in a little over a month I will be 30 years old and I am so lonely, more so right now than I have ever been in my life. As I write in this virtual space on my computer screen in my bedroom in my house on my own I am trying to hold back my tears and my sadness at how alone I feel. But I cant.

I was going to write why I am so alone but I cant even be bothered to do that, I feel so worthless and everything seems pointless.


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By anonymous at 16,Apr,12 08:41

Make an effort to go to places that interests you and maybe you'll make friends. Find local meet up groups. The people that attend those groups are usually bored, too, and trying to experience new things and meet new people. And you'll at least be out of the house.

By anonymous at 16,Apr,12 08:48

If you feel worthless, give yourself more worth. Look around at people who inspire you and ask yourself why you can't do what they do or be like them. If you're a fan of a specific type of music learn an instrument and learn to play a few songs you like, if you like to read have a go at writing some fiction, if you like to play video games download a free trial of Flash or Visual Studio and have a go at making some simple games (this is fun). Just think that if you live to be 80 you're not even 37% of the way through you're life yet, you've got so much time left to do what you want to do and become someone of worth.

You mention you have your own house, that's a lot more than some people, I'd love to have my own place. But loneliness does suck, just try and branch out as much as you can; join a gym / en-roll on some courses / go out to bars and do your best to talk to strangers and strike up conversations. Just think that if conversation starters fail you'll never see those strangers ever again and you can just try again with others - confidence is key, but it's crazy how easy it is to act confident without truly feeling it.

Don't give up hope, there's a hole heap of things still to look forward to.

If you need to talk I'm at

By anonymous at 16,Apr,12 14:09

As we age people move on with their lives, get married have kids, have less free time for conversation with friends. It really sucks but there are a lot of people online waiting for someone to talk to. Perhaps you will find them and become friends in real life.

By anonymous at 17,Apr,12 15:31

You can encounter Christ in a very powerful way, in the midst of feelings of isolation or loneliness. Looking at the crowds of people around you doesn't help, when you feel that no one truly cares for you.

The Psalmist cried out, "No man cares for my soul." [Psalm 142:4]. He was experiencing the loneliness of isolation from other people, and the feeling that those around him were pursuing their own interests rather than showing genuine concern for his soul.

People are often pursuing their own interests and desires, but the lesson we must learn is that people are not our source. In the midst of your isolation, you can turn to Christ and discover that His love truly does satisfy. Jesus understands loneliness and rejection. He experienced isolation from people. Because he understands, he is able to bring acceptance and love.

Christ brings you love, acceptance, and intimate communion with the God of love. With Christ, you are not alone. He conquers your loneliness by coming to dwell within you. Loneliness is removed by the presence of the indwelling Christ.

There is precious communion with Christ, when a lonely person discovers that the love of Christ is real and satisfying. There is an old saying, "Blessed are the homesick, for they shall come home." Loneliness and isolation are signs of homesickness, which can only be healed by coming home to Christ.

Christ makes us whole. His love makes us whole, and out of the overflow of Christ's love within us we can then show love and compassion for those around us. Out of the overflow of His love and acceptance for you, which heals your loneliness, you can show love and caring towards those around you.

He knocks at the door of your heart; the presence of Christ is real. But He must be invited into your heart, into the center of your being.

Receive Him; receive His cleansing and forgiveness and love. Allow Him to have the control of your life in a genuine surrender, and His loving presence will fill you, removing loneliness and unrest. May the peace of Christ fill you now!

A Prayer of Surrender:

Dear Lord Jesus, please fill me with your love, and wash away all my sins. I surrender my heart and life to you. I ask you to receive me and make me whole.

Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins, to cleanse me and forgive me. Thank you for dying on the cross for me, to make me a child of God. I turn away from all my sins, with all my heart.

I receive you, Lord Jesus, as the Lord and Savior of my life. I ask you to rule in my heart and life from now on. I ask you to fill me with your loving presence, and guard me with your divine protection.

I ask you to strengthen me and help me, to live for you from now on. I ask you to fill me with love so that I can love other people with a pure love. Fill me with love so that I can love you with all of my heart.


By at 17,Apr,12 21:50

I feel very alone too, but it seems all the people around are loving life and in a different planet. I don't get them. I hope you find friends, if you wish I'll talk to you, I wish I had someone to talk to too.
By at 19,Apr,12 05:27

can v be frns
By at 06,May,12 10:21

sure :)

By Kelly at 18,Apr,12 22:01

I'm also going to be 30 and am feeling very alone. Maybe it's because of the fact that we are no longer in our twenties. Add to that the fact that everyone around seems to be getting married, buying houses, having kids and it compounds the feeling of loneliness. You just have to remember that there's nothing wrong with you. You just havent found the right person for you yet. Your time will come. Just focus on how great it will be when it does.

By at 19,Apr,12 02:31

Well i can say I am in a similar situation, I have everything I could ever want in life except someone to share it with. But it is a serious thing to completely change someones life in the persuit of meeting somone that you may never meet right? Hah! A debate I have been in for a long time now. You may end up worse off, I wish you more courage than I have.

By anonymous at 20,Apr,12 16:02

be careful here cause people here will see your own house or perhaps u might be a serial killer trapping a weak vulnerable girl or guy

By lucy ann at 10,May,17 13:10

GIviUK Looking forward to reading more. Great article.Really looking forward to read more. Awesome.

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