for a long time ,i didn't have the feeling loving a person and to be loved.i have boyfriend and some good friends,but i still feel lonely.when the night falls,when i close my eyes,i wish someone in my mind ,but my life is so empty,there is no one can give me that great memory to think of.everything i did is wrong ,i just make it worsen every step i take,and now i pay for the price,i become the loneliest person. | |
When you feel gratitude, you can't feel anything bad -- it's one of the most pure, happy emotions we have.
Try this. This sounds really silly, but it WORKS!
Go on you tube and look up Refugee Camps. Watch those videos. In a blink, your troubles are put into perspective.
Then take a moment and just be grateful for everything you have -- running water, food, living in the best country on Earth, no daily risk of death, rape. If you focus only on gratitude, watch what happens!
Being grateful is a choice. No matter what is happening, you can find something to be grateful about. That is the TRUE POWER you have. That is the SECRET TO HAPPINESS.
Try this. Get yourself super grateful, let that feeling take you over -- then go be with people. See what happens!! Try this with strangers. See what happens!!
Remember, people are like mirrors, they REFLECT what you are projecting. So if you hate yourself, they will pick up that vibe and bounce it back to you.
If you project gratitude, that pure beautiful universal emotion will bounce back at you!
Always remember for anything in life -- spend 20% of your energy on the problem, and 80% of your energy on the solution -- watch what happens to your life.
Always ask yourself -- "What is my next action?" Your brain will search for a solution.
Your brain's job is to answer your questions. So if you ask your brain a rhetorical question like "Why me?!" The only answer will be "You are cursed!" -- because that was the answer you were looking for -- yes?
WHAT YOU FOCUS ON IS YOUR REALITY.
It's time to investigate, face your issues, whatever they maybe. Focusing on wanting friendships is your unconscious need for a distraction from dealing with your repressed pain. People you are with feel the vibe, it's like a radio signal that you can't hide.
It's likely deep seeded self esteem issues (we all have them).
Be honest with yourself. Read books, or articles online, if seeking therapy is too scary. Self help books on self esteem.
Focus on the solution, don't dwell on the problem. Burning your energy on the problem will only lead to addiction to depression.
Deal with yourself first, and your true energy will attract and keep the person you deserve.
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