I have a 16 year old son and a 20 year old daughter, and I have been married for 20 years. I knew one day 19 years ago this marriage was in trouble,when I came home from a week long business trip and walked into the house as if I just returned from taking the trash out. I said im home and she replyed " what im no mrs bradey" (Brady Bunch) she left and went to her mom's house, while I drove to mcdonalds for dinner. I should of known this while dating, what I mean is the almost non existant signs of affection, no holding hands, no kissing, no snuggling or anything else. In the bedroom things were ok for about 3 years, the children came and that also went to hell in a hand basket. My daughter is addicted to drugs and my son is doing well.I find myself leveling responsibility for my daughters situation on my wife. She was never very close to her, most of the time reacting to what she wanted,and then nothing till the next situation came up. Today my daughter wont talk to her and when my wife comes home she hides in the bedroom.We have been to counciling, psychiatrist, theraphist, all the stuff. As for me I am always helping my daughter out of all sorts of situations,and I am there 100% for my son. My wife hasn't had sex with me for over 13 years,I know your thinking what kind of crap are you up to, or you probably deserve this. I have never cheated on my wife, I still love her, I have talked with her about this, written her letters about how we can fix this. She dosn't speak of it and I don'tknow what to do anymore.She's a good woman but I am lonely for the affection of another, you have no idea what it feels like to have a hug from someone, to have a compliment made to you, to maybe have a kiss, and of course have a sexual encounter with the one you love.13 13 13 long lonely years since making love to my wife, and I don't know how much longer I can handle this life. I just want to be happy again but I don't think it's in the cards for me, sometimes I feel ive been cursed. I will just continue to go through the motions until the one day things change, just dont know when that will be. | |
Psalm 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
John 3:16 For God so LOVED the world, that he gave his only begotten Son (Jesus), that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
1Corinthians 15:3-4
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ DIED for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was BURIED , and that he ROSE again the third day according to the scriptures:
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Mark 1:15 The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: REPENT ye, and BELIEVE the gospel.
You've got women issues for sure. You're caught in a power struggle between your wife and daughter. Sounds like you're working alot-(trying to put food on the table) and your wife and daughter are completely SPOILED. They probably don't work, you probably provide everything from soup to nuts? In anycase, I hate to say it, but you've conditioned the people around you to act the way they do... You're wife is distant and unloving, something that was inherent in her the day you met her. She's not going to change dude. You're daughter has learned to control her situation with apathy, and just like mom- distant. SO, luckily, your son turned out like you? On the bright side- at least you have one out the bunch that appreciates what you do for them?
My advice: Dump the mom. She probably won't care anyway, and wants to get out of the marriage just as much as you. Once the shit hits the fan- you'll be free to do what guys do- GET LAID.
Cursed
you are strong.
how can she ignore you and deny you your right both physically and emotionally?
13 years is long period. Something is really wrong here. I don't think I can hold 13 weeks in your situation.
To be honest I think you marriage is beyond repair. Your kids are adult now.
I would not feel guilty to find happiness outside of your marriage. Your wife has no right to complaint.
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