I am a 28yrs old woman. Single and stuck in a bullshit job that will never lead me anywhere.As a child I was born a premature baby & the doctors gave me only 6 months to live. Someone I managed to survive only now I wish I hadn't. This is a story of how my life sucks.
My dad & mom had a terrible marriage.It was a arranged marriage. They never loved each other & my dad accused us of not being his children. My brother & I had to take a painful blood test just to prove that we were indeed his and following that it was a case of a terrible divorce and eventually led to my father committing suicide. I was only 10 then.
Following that mom was always working, trying the settle debts my dad left behind & too tired to talk to me.I could not really blamed her as she herself might have felt that her life sucks.I was always alone with my brother. Soon after my brother started to physically abuse me, kicking me on my stomach,face & the other parts. This stopped when he eventually left the house.
In school the kids always made fun of me and used to call me crazy and specky. None of them really wanted to be my friends. I always felt like an outcast and many times I spent recess time alone.
At the age of 16, I developed an ovarian benign tumor that grow so big that people actually thought I was pregnant. I had to be hospitalized and had to have the left side of my ovary cut off and am left with a bad keloid scar on my stomach that is 15cm long. Till now it hurts badly when I get my menses and I ever wonder is I could ever produce children.
My mom,a sickly woman with diabetes type 3 & high blood pressure. She had to stop working and soon after I got my diploma, I had to work to support my family. I always wanted to do my degree & get my driving licence but it seems impossible now with my current financial situation.Recently she was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had to take up another job in the evening and pay through my nose to settle the medical bills and am also currently trying the buy back the jewelery we had pawned and this adds on to my financial burden.
With all these problems, I wonder if I would ever be settled in life. My life is a huge question mark. Many times I felt like committing suicide just like my dad did.I try to be positive but another problem always seems to pop out. The men in my life I met all made use of me either for body or money. None of then every loved me even though I always try to give my all. Surprisingly these guys have all settled happily from what I seen & heard.
I know that I am not the only one with problems in my life. I was never one to complain. It seems that 90% of my life is filled with problems. I asked God when will my life get better. | |
You sound like such a strong woman. And by the sounds of it, it seems like you're a christian woman. Don't give up on faith. Ask God to change you into the person that he wants you to be. And pray with sincerity in your heart while you're talking to God. Just pour out your heart to God. And surround yourself with positive people, befriend positive people. Trust me this situation (nightmare) that you are in is temporary. It is making you a stronger person each and every day. I can tell you right now you are a stronger person than me. Just promise me 1 thing. DON'T GIVE UP! (in translation: DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE!) that's the coward's way out. If u commit suicide, you will just have a crappier after life. I will pray for you. You will be very successful one day.
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I can't even come up with a proper witticism here. Look, the person's life posting here SUCKS. My heart truly does go out to her/him. I'm sorry. Life sucks. That's why there are sites like this one. Okay. That his/her life sucks is one thing, however (and, again, I am sorry for that) . . . but you wanna perpetuate that pain and suffering into a KID? And put them through all the shit they're likely going to have to go through being born under those circumstances??
You (and the poster, and anyone else thinking that having a kid under such circumstances is, somehow, okay) are part of the reason that this planet is a festering cespool of hell and filth.
Kids, again, should NOT be born under anything less than the best, most ideal circumstances that can be given to them. They are a newborn life, and deserve as much of an opportunity for physical, financial, and psychological success as possible. To knowingly and willingly start them off under crippling circumstances is, I think, very, very ignorant, punishable, and sinful.
Anyway. My opinion. Obviously a whole SHIT load of human beings on earth don't have this opinion (yourself included).
Rock on. God speed to you, the poster, and whoever else. : )
This was (and still is) my point, however: I know the "crowning achievement" of sooo many people on earth is to have a child . . . but given how bad life on this planet often is, and given how tough your own situation seems, perhaps having a kid shouldn't entirely be that huge of a concern, eh? Seems with your condition, birth might even prove fatal if it were possible.
Ultimately, I don't mean any ill intent toward you, okay? I just don't like it when people (not saying you personally feel like this . . . I don't know. But I don't like it when people) don't THINK about the massively, monumentally HUGE responsibility involved in having a kid and having to rear a life and be responsible for raising a personality. The vast, vast majority of us human beings are NOT fit to be parents - and yet so many keep having kids that end up being nothing more than criminals because their parents either didn't want them, or didn't have the means to raise them properly.
Anyway . . . enough.
Best to you.
And to the individual who responded to my initial statement, I'm sure they feel content to simply judge anyone who posts as a complete loser/jerk, etc, etc. Life is much, much more complicated than that. At any given moment in time, we are ALL one another in action and deed. Mother Teresa is Charles Manson; Jeffery Dahmer is Ghandi. We are all each other.
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I wish you were right - life only sucks to those who make it that way. You might be right, but there's a LOT of stuff we're simply ignorant of, so a lot of times we don't know HOW life got fucked up or what to do to fix it . . . so it stays bad and gets worse. And then some people want to bring innocent kids into an already fucked up life? You see where this is going right?
she sounds like someone who survived and i don't think she would like to be called a bitch, but i guess that would make you a son of a bitch right?
Don't listen to what these idiots say, they get pleasure out of making other people feel like shit because they have nothing and nobody who loves them. They are rotten scum ....... they are probably grown ass men living in their parents basement and 300 punds overweight...
In life,
Pain is inevitable
Suffering is optional
Just keep doing the right things and eventually everything will work itself out. It always does.
watch this,maybe it will help you..
Life is a journey and we have to face many obstacles but never loose hope because God has plans for you and one day you will rejoice
Iam writing this mail after ayear your blog was posted i hope things have turned for your better now otherwise also iam sure things will change for the best
Rather than waiting for the storm to stop learn to dance in the rain
God Bless you
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