I am 45 years old and have spent most of my life being alone. I meet people all the time and they seem to want to be my friend but when I associate with them I find that they contribute nothing toward the friendship and expect me to do all the work. Consequently I end up feeling exhausted and used, then the so called friendship comes to an end because I ask them to contribute to it; for example I might ask them what they want to do, so that I don’t have to make all the decisions. Or I might ask them when they are going to cook me a meal after I have cooked 5 or 6 meals for them. As a result they begin to avoid me and I feel used. Now days I have pretty much given up on people because they are just too selfish, but I feel very lonely. | |
I tend to keep my guard up and wait until the other party does something for me before I'll start reciprocating. Its very sad to say that, but I used to be like you and often ended up feeling used. This world is cruel to kind hearted generous people because there are so many people out there who try to take advantage of others. So now I keep my guard up... self preservation my friend.
No one is perfect, but that shouldn't mean you should stop being a good friend to others, just because they aren't being as thoughtful or as giving as you.
true love/friendship should be given freely with no expectation of return. I think if you just changed the way you looked at people, and forgive others, you would be a lot happier.
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