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Lonely

Posted by anonymous at June 14, 2012
Tags: 2012 June  Loneliness

I can certainly relate to being lonely. I am a 28 year old male and have only been in a couple relationships. I'm an extremely nice guy, which seems to be my downfall as girls want to b friends more than anything else. I give all of myself to girls, and I think this is a huge mistake at least in the beginning. I have enough friends that are girls, and while that's great to have girl friends; I'm tired of not having a companion. I know I can't force it to happen; it has to happen organically as anything worthwhile does, but it's just really difficult at times. I know I've got a lot to offer but what good is it if no one notices or appreciates it. The girls that I have been with have ended up leaving but not for being abusive in anyway (mentally, emotionally, physically) or being a jerk in general. I have always been supportive and there for the girls in my life, but it's as if they like it momentarily then get bored and move on. It hurts a lot! Any advice or comments would b appreciated.


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By Cursed at 22,Jun,12 14:53

Dear friend-
Being a woman, I can say that there is some self-destructive mechanism that is ingrained in us to always fall for the "bad-guy". It totally sucks, but don't worry- we eventually/hopefully out grow it... It probably stems back to our evolution- wanting to mate with the complete asshole caveman that treats us like dirt but is the "alpha" male, and so we gravitate towards that- survival of the fittest. In anycase, please don't loose hope. I'd like to say that as we age (women) that is, we realize that we should have married/dated the "nice-guy" and then that nice guy is taken. So don't fret, you will find a gal that has her head screwed on straight- and she will fall for you. A bit of advice- if you don't mind dating an older woman, they tend to be more mature and definitely more grateful. I was there once- young, beautiful, and completely clueless. And yes, many a nice guy was overlooked for that "asshole" that I thought was cool. Don't worry- like a fine wine, we become better with age...
Cursed
By Wino joe at 23,Jun,12 21:37

Cursed, why don't you get back to work, how can you nurse when your on the computer 24/7? Really people are sick, dying and need help in real time not on net time.
By Cursed at 24,Jun,12 13:33

My client is a wealthy 94 year old man who makes the trolls on here seem like a bunch of roses. Seriously? Why are you concerned with how much time I spend on here dolling out positive comments? Would you like me better if I was shitty and an asshole like the rest of the bunch on here? Yeah- not happening. Go fuck your 16 year old.
By anonymous at 25,Jun,12 00:21

Why cause I'm having fun in hawaii? She's 25 by the way. Well then we are ( where in the same line of work then cept I was a register nurse not a home health aide like you) dead give away was "client". You help him with the ADL's and I come in to do injectables or change some sorry ass infected non healing bed soars pack em up and cover em as to try not get shit on them when they delicate.. Yup I told you I couldn't handle and left
By Cursed at 01,Jul,12 22:03 Fold Up

You know what? I just re-read what I posted....it's all bullshit. Let's face it you are a faggot looser who wouldn't attract an ugly fat wrench. I was trying to make you feel better, but hey I was lying so I thought I'd come back and tell the truth....Cursed
By anonymous at 04,Jul,12 02:00 Fold Up

BS. It is a problem of what women will tolerate. First, they go for the worst kind of "male" then get emotionally distorted and want someone like this guy. Dont be a sucker ... As Cursed pointed out "probably stems back to our evolution", what is there incentive to be nice to you if it is in their biology to consistently screw up. Even if they "learned" their lesson ... its in their nature to want the "bad-guy" and since you are not him, you will never be what they want, only what they will tolerate until something better comes along. Change yourself man!

@cursed: Dont give me the "they tend to be more mature and definately more grateful" line ... its only because they do not have any "vertical" power to move up the chain of useless men that are just perceptions of what they think is cool. They're tired.

Original poster ... do yourself a favor. Grow some balls and go get you some from these females and don't settle for someone that has gave it up so loosely to others but wants to make you work for it ...
By anonymous at 10,Nov,12 00:51

Man I swear I just want god to kill all humans fuck human beings fuck the piety superficiality, the stepping on each other, fuck it all!


By Truth at 22,Jun,12 16:18

First of all , using the word "organically" in a lovesick whine and cheese post is fucking retarded. That's right, you're a retard. A short bus drooling pants pissing pinhead tard. That's your biggest problem. The other thing is your clit sized cock. The ladies want a high speed driller, not an oversize mosquito bite. You can't make up for the lack down there with an oversized personality. You're not really a great guy, and no one else thinks so either.

I can help though. What you need to do is drink a lot of booze everyday. That's just for starters. It'll make your insufferable shitbird personality into something different, and different is good. Also, you need to get away from the friendship thing and start right away licking the hatchet wound. You need to slurp that thing like a like a feral dog on a hambone. I mean, make her cry and piss in your face uncontrollably and then go back for more. That way, she won't care when you put in your angry inch and blow man chowder in 18 seconds.

I mean really, figure it out...you're over 6 feet tall...they call you "shorty" for another reason.

You're welcome shorty. I hate you!
By anonymous at 12,Jul,12 04:52

Yes god bless you, you piece of shit human being. Tell me is all of that talk about having a large penis making yours any bigger? You sound like every other chauvinistic retard "ape" human being I've ever met. Do you have a small man complex its alright just go back to watching football and being a macho man, ignorant, dumb ass. You could at least show this guy some sympathy.


By anonymous at 23,Jun,12 00:38

I once had a nice girlfriend who had no hobbies other than spreading gossip with her girlfriends. I had to be the one to always come up with things for us to do like going traveling or going to boat shows. I got bored with her real quick.

Being nice is attractive, but it shouldn't be all there is to your personality. You need to have some interests and passions about life as well. If all you did was focus on the girl, she must have gotten bored because there wasn't anything for her to share or learn from you. The girlfriend should not be all you focus on. It's okay to pursue your own hobbies and interests outside of a relationship.


By anonymous at 27,Jun,12 17:19

Get a gym membership or if that's too intimidating go for runs and lift weights at home. Your pain threshold will increase and your confidence will increase (will be less of a suck and more willing to take chances). Not to mention you will be more attractive.
By anonymous at 12,Jul,12 05:02

The part about working out dulling pain is bullshit. I know men who workout who are the most emotional sorry shits I've ever met. It takes mental practice and hardship to make one emotionally tough. What he should do is expand his mind forget about trite social constructs of humanity and acquire capital and use it to manipulate women. That is if your up for the intellectual vigor it is a little more strenuous then the brutish lifting of weights. Fuck the superficiality of primitive male dogmas which is what the person above is attesting too. Do what you want be confident and girls will come by.


By anonymous at 30,Jun,12 18:19

Stop labeling yourself as nice. What does that even mean? Are you trying to be selfless? If so, I question your self-esteem.

Decide what you want in life and take it. You don't have to be an asshole to do that.

Nice people are boring. Stop caring about other people and start caring about yourself. Then find a companion you care about. But you have to care about yourself first.


By Sean at 01,Jul,12 01:58

Ive been in your position many times. I have dated a lot of women in the past who did the exact same thing to me. I was always nice, romantic and sweet to them, never cheated, never hurt them or did them wrong. They acted like they loved it at first, but usually after a few months they got bored, dumped me, and moved on to a complete scum bag. Most of the scum bags werent even as attractive as me, so it never made sense even from a physical stand point.

Most females tend to go through this phase up until their late twenties (some times longer), where they are confused about what they want when it comes to men. For whatever reason, they say they want a good guy, but their behavior reflects the opposite.

With us men it's very simple when it comes to what we want, if a girl is physically attractive to you, if she seems interested in you and you get a long with her, there you go, thats basically all that matters when it comes to chosing a mate for us.

With women its a complicated cluster fuck, she has to be more emotionally attracted to the guy, and women's emotions & feelings change constantly. Bad guys are more unpredictable, and that sort of vibe is more attractive to women, even though bad guys are prone to cheating and inflicting abuse.

Most women make illogical and down right stupid choices (that are void of common sense) when it comes to relationships, until they are in their late twenties, but by that time, the woman usually is fat by then and used up the majority of her prime wasted on idiots, losers and ass holes. If you are a nice guy you usually get what's left over, after she grows up.
By anonymous at 01,Jul,12 22:56

So what your saying is you have a small cock as well?
By Sean at 02,Jul,12 15:00

Quite the opposite actually.
By anonymous at 27,Oct,12 09:24

ahahahahhaa ^
By anonymous at 02,Nov,12 18:18 Fold Up

Wow seriously do you have a fucking brain douche bag? "Look at me I'm going to make childish references to male genitalia." You're so god damn funny.
By anonymous at 02,Nov,12 18:17 Fold Up

Agreed, fuck that just make a lot of money and get the young ones and make them pay for the crap you put up with women earlier in you're youth. I say FUCK humans they want to get shit on, kicked, and stepped on fine its my turn to be the one fucking people over.


By anonymous at 01,Jul,12 18:57

Hey I know how you feel. Women and Men are allways looking for the best deal and since no one is perfect its hard to compete with such a large planet full of lonley people. Now that divorce is so popular even marrage isnt any way to hold the love of you life in a relationship. I best thing I can sugest is to love who you are the rest of the world be dammed!!!


By anonymous at 01,Jul,12 22:53

It is what it is. Let's put this together, you are a real nice guy, never do wrong to a partner, but they move on. You must be lacking somewhere. Can you identify this? Why would a women want to leave a good guy? Either you have a few hang ups that you are not telling in your post or you don't like sex.


By anonymous at 02,Jul,12 03:41

Go to peaceful pill handbook dot com and see about ordering a helium hood aka exit bag. seems to be a great way to do it, you just lose consciousness very fast and then drift away. off yourself peacefully, just assemble it, crinkle the bag up on top of your head so there is no air in it, open the tank and exhale then pull the hood down over your head and take a deep breath in, you will pass out almost instantly and never wake up.
may you find peace
By anonymous at 08,Jul,12 16:49

why don't you try this on yourself ?
By anonymous at 09,Jul,12 19:43 Fold Up

1st off you are an idiot to offer this "advice"..2nd, you are uninformed-it's not all that peaceful to go out this way...your body has a reflex that kicks in that results in panic...


By anonymous at 05,Jul,12 02:49

you fucking cunt, you should turn gay.


By kitty at 29,Aug,12 04:15

I'll date you and let you know what your doing wrong, just dont fall for me becuz i am trying to help you out in figuring what is wrong with you.. You would like me, I am a very pretty woman, honest humor and witty,and full of charisma.. reply and let me know.. we can just mms messge or video chat mssge..


By anonymous at 01,Sep,12 17:11

And my final comment to all you maggots who have harrassed me is FUCK YOU ASSHOLES.


By anonymous at 13,Feb,13 23:22

don't change who you are. If you have to be a jerk to attract one of these kinds of girls that have rejected you in the long run do you really want to end up with someone like that. These people are attracted to the excitement of the push pull drama ups and downs. You sound like an emotionally mature person who just wants a healthy reciprocated relationship. If you have to jump threw hoops and play games with someone to win their heart then you will probably have to play games through the entire relationship. People like that are never satisfied. wait till you find someone who appreciates you for who you are. Guess what there is no guarantee that you ever will but your only other option is to join the "caveman" masses. And yes I agree playing games works but do you really want to end up with someone who needs to be rejected and distant to be "in love" if that is what you want then by all means play games but you will have to play games the rest of your life to keep them interested and they will probably end up breaking your heart in the long run so you are better off alone or waiting for someone real which may never come.


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