In the past two years I:
1. Lost my beloved husband when he died suddenly and tragically at the age of 48. He slipped on an icy patch, struck his head on the ice/pavement and suffered a major subdural hematoma. He was brain dead upon arrival to the emergency room. We buried him six days later.
2. Discovered that he had not written a will, or changed the beneficiary designations on his retirement accounts after his divorce from his first wife, and let a life insurance policy meant to benefit his (grown) children lapse.
3. Had his four daughters turn against me when their mother told them lies about me and even though I helped to raise them for the past ten years and treated them as my own, suddenly I was the “evil stepmother” out to take their inheritance away from them.
4. Had my in-laws turn against me when the aforementioned stepdaughters repeated the lies about me to them.
5. Had a sister in law and her husband turn against me and verbally pummel me with accusations at the dinner table one disastrous weekend.
6. Was removed by court order, at the behest of the same aforementioned stepdaughters, as the administrator of my late husband’s estate – and replaced by a court appointed substitute administrator who subsequently decimated the estate by selling the house for a pittance and pocketing a major portion of the proceeds as his “fee”.
7. Lost my well paying job as a result of all the stress I was under from all of the above events. I was unable to find another job that would allow me to work full time for a decent wage and not be required to answer the phone (I wear hearing aids and using the phone is very hard for me. The job I had and lost was one in which my employers mercifully allowed me to pass that task to another employee in the organization –a very unusual situation.)
8. Was forced out of my house and home by aforementioned substitute administrator. I also had to move away from the community in which I had lived for the past eleven years because I could no longer afford to live there. I had been a very active and involved founding member of our synagogue, along with my beloved husband.
9. Lost hundreds of thousands of dollars in a litigious fight with my late husband’s ex wife and her daughters. The ex claimed all the retirement funds even though she knew he would not have wanted her to have them, and she claimed he’d died owing her a substantial amount of money, all fabricated. The girls claimed that the second life insurance policy to which I was the sole named beneficiary belonged to them and they claimed the estate as theirs in its entirety.
10. Lost tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees due to the above mentioned litigation.
11. Fell into a depression that required a psychiatric evaluation, counseling, and medication.
12. Went from having a large family, many familial gatherings, for weekends and holidays, to living all alone with no one else around and having to invite myself to others for meals so I should not be alone. (Sometimes I felt so badly that I could not do that and stayed home alone).
13. I am still alone and very lonely. My only daughter is married and living overseas. The steps and the ex have succeeded in taking away the larger portion of what should have been mine. They have cost me so much money I am now in debt. I am 51 years old, widowed and disabled. The ex is married, owns her own home, and has a job earning 100k per year. She is also not disabled. But she saw fit to take as much away from me as she possibly could. I do not know what I did to deserve this.