Are guys all a-holes? I mean this seriously. I cannot move on from my ex, because I'm afraid that all guys are just like him. From my experience and other stories I've heard, they all are...
This jerk (my ex) said he couldn't be my boyfriend because we faught to much. Our "fights" were always me asking for very simple things and him refusing or him being a jerk and me calling him out on it. Some examples...
If I only saw him two or three times a week and asked him to actually talk to me for more than two minutes on the phone on the days that I didn't see him, that was a fight.
Some guy with a complex called him a fag and I laughed (at the guy for being so petty and pathetic, not at my then boyfriend)and he picked a fight with me (here I was thinking he would laugh with me). He asked me questions but didn't give me a chance to answer before slamming the door in my face. I told him to stay in the car and call me if his attitude changed while I walked to a pizza place where we had put in an order, payed for the pizza, walked the 10 minutes home with the pizza, did dishes and then heated up my pizza. He finally called me and when we talked on the phone he had the nerve to call me "little miss princess".
He now wants to be friends so that we can have all of the good things we had without the fighting. I told him not to call me for 6 months and then I would consider being his friend. It hasn't been a month, yet he still calls me. I still love him, so it is torture. When I call him, he ignores my calls. He gave me heart shaped earrings with a matching necklace with three hearts for my birthday. My birthday was almost a month after our break up. I called him for an explanation and he tells me he thought girls liked hearts. I told him its something you get for a girlfriend, not a friend. He tells me if it were for a girl friend, the diamonds (that the hearts were made of) would have been real. Why does he play these games with me? How do I stop letting him when I still love him and am so broken? | |
And not all guys are assholes. I've read far more stories on this website that have painted women in a worse light (gold diggers, all of you! -- just kidding). You just seem to be unable to tell the difference between the type that is right for you and the type that is bad. Asshole has got nothing to do with it. Hell, the man of your dreams could very well be an asshole.
Also, remember that while he gave you that necklace and earrings, you're the one who accepted a gift. You're giving him validation for doing this. If you want to be broken up, then fucking break up with him already. I'm not just saying calling or "texting" him and saying "It's over." You have to fucking do it and obviously neither of you are mature enough to handle a friendship so that should be out of the question also.
You sound like you know what is going on, you just need to accept it. Maybe you should enjoy being by yourself again before you think of dating, or maybe you need to start dating someone else right away so you forget about this person that you've fooled yourself into thinking you love.
To be honest, I speak from experience because your story sounds very familiar.
Good luck.
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