i am 24 male, i have a feeling like my life is passing by, all my friends are making new friends, and im like a puppy dog whos with them. its very difficult or even impossible for me to make friends, all the way through university i made 2 friends. no matter in what social group i am, at a party, at work etc. i am always the one who gets laughed at. its because im a NICE guy, i hate it. i have no social life at all, all i do is sit at home, go to gym and thats it. everything seems so pointless. i am a total loser, and everybody knows it, the few friends i have, they are all very popular, sometimes i wonder why they still hang out with me. oh yeah and i have never had A gf. its very difficult for me to go to public places like the mall, just walking on a crouded street, public transportation ....(i have social fobia). the f i wrong with me? | |
I don't mean to be pretentious by giving advice (after all, how can a random stranger decide what's best for you?), but I'm giving advice with the hope that it will help you out.
My advice is, don't let life pass you by. There are so many things to do in life, you just haven't discovered them yet. Don't live a passive life, watching how other people's lives are great, and how you are the socially awkward one. In fact, know that being "socially awkward" is a fucking retarded label. There's nothing wrong with having a phobia of people. I don't want to spout the whole "everyone is unique" stuff, although it is true. Its just extremely hard for people to realize when they are surrounded by people who seem to be more liked by others, and have a better life. Trust me, if you care about your life, and are willing to do your best to break out of this monotonous cycle and do something,
you will start going somewhere with your life, and find out what you want to do with your life ,who you are, etc.
To put things in perspective, there are people born into poverty, into slavery, into illness; They literally cannot change their current condition. They have to have sex for say, a bag of potato chips.
But you can change how you are now. Change who you are, in the sense that you are discovering what you can be (so, yes, paradoxically, change who you are while remaining true to yourself, don't fool yourself into believing something you're not).
I'm sure there are many things about you that people will love, you just haven't found those people yet.
Sign yourself up for different things, keep your life busy with different things. For one thing, if you are busy, you won't worry so much (trust me).
For another, if you try out different things, you may find out what's missing in your life, that inspirational thing that may be your interest, or passion, for the rest of your life.
Anyways, I'm not even sure you're going to read this far, but I'd like to thank you anyways for posting this, and helping clear my head. I don't know who you are, but I sincerely wish you good luck.
From someone who is in your shoes
i try to fight it now, i put myself into situations i usually try to avoid. the beginning is hard, but some ppl are doing better, i looked some videos on utube about my situation, i hope i will come out as a winner.
Trust me kid- you're not alone. Even when you want to be-
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